Owning our emotions
Just like the wheels on a car need convergence to move freely and quickly, in the same way, an individual must maintain his or her emotional balance in order to act effectively.
Too many people are afraid to express their emotions because they don't know how to do so. Many of us have had painful experiences when confronting others or getting hurt during an emotional exchange, so we tend to identify the expression of emotions with a “damage caused”, while in reality this is just a result of our inability to express ourselves correctly.
Our emotions are generated by our perceptions and interpretations: thus they are based on our mental models of exterior reality.
To take ownership of our emotions we need:
the ability to analyse restrictive convictions
the ability to forgive
The common denominator of all these qualities is the ability to constantly “be present” in what is happening: both inside us and around us.